“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.” -Pema Chödrön
We are living in a world filled with pain and fear. But I believe it’s also a world that wants to heal. And we all can contribute to its healing by using the only medicine strong enough to invoke change.
That medicine is love.
Now I am aware of the hatred that is running rampant. I see the pain that has been passed on from generation to generation. I see the fear. I see the misjudgment. I see the people juggling masks to fit in out of fear of being ostracized and dismissed. I see the mothers crying. I see the children with deflated confidence. I see humans that were designed to love one another crucify one other without second thought. I see the cycles. I see the blood shed.
And it has to stop.
I know what it feels like to be oppressed. I am an African-American woman who is also a lesbian. Again, I know what it feels like to be oppressed. So believe me when I say pointing fingers will distract you, opening your heart to hatred will suffocate you and swimming in darkness will distinguish your light.
Love will liberate you.
It is difficult to believe in the power of love when it appears that hatred has been cast a leading role in our history. It is difficult to turn the other cheek. It is difficult to not retaliate when you have felt attacked every day of your life. It is difficult, but it is not impossible.
But don’t emulate the behaviors that have caused you pain. We cannot heal the world by creating new wounds. We cannot heal the world by dismissing the pain just because it’s not radiating within us. Human to human, this is our pain. To divide and conquer is an illusion, because what can we truly conquer without one another? So when I say take action, I pled with you that your action be rooted in love.
The truth is.
We have forgotten how much we need one another. We have forgotten that each one of us is a vital organ connected to the same body. And it doesn’t matter what our socio-economic status, race, sexual orientation or religious beliefs are, we are all organs that serve a purpose. But we cannot survive apart from one another. Our sense of connection is not an outfit that we can wear on special occasions, it has to be a second skin. We have to practice compassion, we have to esteem one another, we have to learn to drop our walls and cry together, we have to look in each other’s eyes and see our Creator looking back at us. There is no such thing as a stranger; when you meet a new face, you’re meeting a brother or sister. Greet them as such, seek to learn what they’re here to teach, yearn to understand them, listen to their voices and always exhibit love, grace and forgiveness.
As you go about your life, please don’t relinquish your ability to heal the world we live in. There may be a lot for us to face, and at times it may seem impossible, but it isn’t. Do not think for one second that your purpose here on Earth is to acquire wealth, nice material items and fame, we all exist to love unconditionally.
From one organ to another…
I love you.
I value you.
I need you.
We all need to hear that sometimes.
“For the body does not consist of one limb or organ but of many. 15: If the foot should say, Because I am not the hand, I do not belong to the body, would it be therefore not [a part] of the body? 16: If the ear should say, I am not the eye, I do not belong to the body, would it be therefore not [a part] of the body? 17: If the whole body were an eye, where [would be the sense of] hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where [would be the sense of] smell? 18: But as it is, God has placed and arranged the limbs and organs in the body, each [particular one] of them, just as He saw fit and with the be best adaption. 19: But if [the whole] were all a single organ, where would the body be? 20: And now there are [certainly] many limbs and organs, but a single body. 21: And the eye is not able to say to the hand, I have no need of you, nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you. 22: But instead, there is [absolute] necessity for the parts of the body that are considered the more weak. 23: And those [parts] of the body which we consider rather ignoble are [the very parts] which we invest with additional honor, and our unseemly parts and those unsuitable for exposure are treated with seemliness (modesty and decorum), 24: Which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so adjusted (mingled, harmonized, and subtly proportioned the parts of) the whole body, giving the greater honor and richer endowment to the inferior parts which lack [apparent importance], 25: So that there should be no division or discord or lack of adaptation [of the parts of the body to each other], but the members all alike should have a mutual interest in and care for one another. 26: And if one member suffers, all the parts [share] the suffering; if one member is honored, all the members [share in] the enjoyment of it. 27: Now you [collectively] are Christ’s body and [individually] you are members of it, each part severally and distinct [each with his own place and function].”
-1 Corinthians 12:14-27 (AMP)