With a new year around the corner, I believe it’s important to ease some people’s minds by sharing a little secret…
It’s okay to not have everything together all the time
Show yourself some mercy. Give yourself some time. Don’t go into 2016 beating yourself up. Whatever you did not achieve in 2015, can be achieved in 2016. All of the shoulda-coulda-woulda’s are not your friends. Let it go. It is going to be okay.
Furthermore, it’s okay to go into 2016, under construction.
The under construction phase of our lives doesn’t mean that we’ve failed. It doesn’t mean that we’re behind everyone else- this isn’t a race anyway. Instead, we should think of the under construction phase of our lives as a stage of refinement. It is a time for shedding, a time for releasing the weight of guilt, fear, and anxiety; it is, in essence, a rebirth, of sorts. And it’s essential for our next level of growth and development.
“But the under construction phase is uncomfortable.”
You’re right. It is uncomfortable. So don’t be surprised when fear and doubt surface because they will. You just have to remember that this is a phase, it will pass, and it’s for your betterment.
Think about when a building is renovated, the intent isn’t to make the building look worse. No the purpose is to enhance the existing building. The same applies to our under construction phase. You may feel like your life has been hit with a wrecking ball, and everywhere you turn it looks like a construction zone, but do not be alarmed. Know that it is a part of your journey and that the finished product will be worth it all.