Motivational Meal of the Week: What/Who Has Permission to Access Your Life?

I think it is safe to assume that most people have some kind of social media presence? And perhaps you’re not on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram frequently, but you do check it occasionally, right?

Let’s take it one step further. 

Do you have any apps that sync to your various social media pages? For example, I use Spotify to stream music online. And 99.7% of the time, I cannot remember my login information.  So when that happens, what do I do? I sign in using my Facebook account and it always ask me if I’m okay with giving Spotify permission to access my Facebook account. I give my consent and within a few minutes I’m listening to my music.

It’s simple, right?

Now some of you may not be familiar with what I’m talking about. Some of you would never give a third-party site access to your Facebook. That’s fine. I understand. But perhaps you’re giving something else permission to access your life?

Knock, knock, who’s there?

At the door of your life, there will always be something or someone knocking and their intent is to gain access to your mind and heart. And those things can be financial hardship, unemployment, poor relationships and friendships, depression, anxiety, hopelessness, doubt, even fear. The question becomes, “Will you give these visitors permission to access your life by opening the door?”

You have to ask yourself, “Why are these things knocking at my door?” “Did I invite them?” “What will happen if I open the door?” ” Will they become permanent guests? ” Let’s just use fear as an example. Fear is a frequent visitor- fear is always knocking at your life’s door. It even has the nerve to come disguised as an eviction notice, termination papers or insufficient fund alerts on your smartphone. And if you let it in, guess what? It comes with friends- doubt, anxiety, hopelessness, despair. Now ask yourself, is that what I want to allow into my life? Do I want to give fear permission to access my life?


There is no reciprocity with fear. Fear steals. Fear bankrupts dreams, cripples potential and leaves you feasting on what-ifs. I believe we have to assess what we have given permission to access our lives. And in doing that assessment, I believe we would identify a lot of guests that should have been evicted a long time ago.

It is your choice. 

When I decided to sign on to my Spotify account using my Facebook account, no one forced me to do it. I made a choice to do it. In the same way, you choose who you give permission to access your life. It doesn’t matter how many times fear knocks at the door, it will not get in if you don’t open it. The same applies for anything else that doesn’t encourage, uplift and empower you. Your life is precious. Your life is sacred. You have to guard it with all that you have.

Two of the many gifts that life presents us with every day we’re alive is the ability to choice and the ability to change. So what you’ve given the wrong things access to your life, you also have the power to kick them out too. Don’t think for one minute that you’re helpless. You’re not. You are power-FULL.

So who’s ready to revoke someone’s or something’s access to your life? You can do it!


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